Robot
From the Blog Newsline: Movie Review: Robot - Apart from the visuals, nothing about Robot is spectacular. . Read Full Post
A Moment of Judgment
From the Blog A Myth in Creation: Awais Aftab's Blog: A Moment of Judgment - “My aim was to create a scene that was perfectly morally ambiguous, and in which the reader might quite justifiably side with either Andrew or Sarah. Andrew isn't such a bad guy. What he fails to do on the beach is what most people would probably fail to do, myself included. Once Andrew realizes he's made the wrong choice, it's too late for him because the moment has passed and he is condemned to spend the rest of his days regretting that he failed life's test. Sarah is lucky, really. She's not inherently more moral than her husband, but just at that one critical moment she happened to do the right thing. This means that she can look back on her actions on the beach without too much guilt or shame. She can move on with the rest of her life while Andrew must enter a terminal decline. It's ironic because Sarah's infidelity is the reason the couple find themselves on the beach in the first place. And yet her premeditated affair goes unpunished by life, while Andrew's momentary failure of courage dooms him forever. Life is savagely unfair. It ignores our deep-seated convictions and places a disproportionate emphasis on the decisions we make in split seconds. ” Chris Cleave, talking about a scene in his novel Little Bee . . Read Full Post
How to understand relationships and make them work?
From the Blog Eddy Straight From The Heart: How to understand relationships and make them work? - “I begin with the name of Allah, the most merciful”. Relationships are the basic building blocks of a human life cycle. They govern the kind of personality we turn out to possess. They guide an individual to the kind of life he ends up living. Relationships in short, make us who we really are. Understanding a relationship and what it demands and the expectations one should have from it is the most important aspect of social living. In my view there are simply two kinds of relationships, obligatory and optional. The sooner we understand the dynamics and complexities associated with these relationships, the better chances we have at sustaining them and enjoying their presence to the fullest.The first category is the obligatory relationship. Our parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts and uncles and all those relatives that suddenly are a part of our lives from the day we are born fall into this category. The key to understand these relationships is to admit the fact that they are not ours by choice. With this realization comes the responsibility of adjusting to who these people are since nature has not left us with an option to find alternates for them. Parents for example, are given to a human by nature, we don’t choose where we are born neither do our parents choose the kind of kids they would ideally have liked to bring up. Interestingly enough even though we do not have a say in choosing our parents, siblings or kids, we still have the greatest emotional ties with them. Now the question is, how should we go about forming a healthy relationship with someone who is not our best choice. I mean person X might want his dad to be like person Y’s dad but would that make a difference? No. A dad once given to you is yours for the rest of your life, so cope up with him. Same goes for a son, a daughter, a mother, a brother etc. The way to go is to think that nature has given you a responsibility in form of this obligatory relationship and that you have to do your bit to fulfil that responsibility. It is like paying your taxes for being a national of a country. You are You because you have these obligatory relations, they give you an identity. The rights that they have over you are taxes that you ought to pay to flaunt that very identity. Secondly, DO NOT EXPECT. Expectations are poison for a relationship, especially an obligatory one. Since your obligatory relatives are not your perfect match they are not neccesarily going to understand your emotional needs from your perspective. They just can’t because they are different people and you never had a chance to evaluate them as suitable relatives. It is a case of take it or, well there is no alternative, You have to take them as they come. In obligatory relations the best way forward is to do your bit selflessly without looking for a reciprocation. Understand that these people are not yours by choice but by default and they are a part of who you are.Second type of relationsips is the relationships you opt for. They include your love partners, business associates, friends, wives, husbands etc. Here you have a choice. The key is to make that choice wisely and then try your level best to stick with what you chose. To take your chosen companions with all their pros and cons is part of the deal here, because like a mystery novel a human being can open a new chapter and surprise you every now and then. The ease with such relations is that they can be gotten rid of and discontinued but this is also the most difficult part of dealing with them. To evaluate how important an optional relationship is and how willing you are to stand by your choice is the key to these relationships. To me, relationships that you make by choice deserve more care and nourishment becasue you bring them in your life by your will and the only thing that keeps the bond is your love for them and their’s for you. There is no natural binding or biological constraint. To give them comfort is of prime importance because they are in your world because you chose them to be there not because it was predestined. Again the key is to keep your expectations in check. You can however take more liberty with these relationships in this departmanet because they often are based upon certain expectations to start with. All in all, we need relatives to survive in this world. The ones we are born with are people we have to care for because they are in one way or the other the reason for our existance and have a contribution in the life that we lead. It is the ones that we choose to bring into our lives that deserve even more love because they need our help to understand us and the only forces holding up the relation are love and trust. See Also : Don’t Blame Others! . Read Full Post
Pakistan toil as South African batsmen make hay on first day
From the Blog Guppu: Pakistan toil as South African batsmen make hay on first day - DUBAI: Graeme Smith struck a fighting century to put South Africa on track for a big total against a hapless Pakistan attack on the opening day of the first Test here on Friday. Smith hit eight boundaries in his 152-ball 100 and shared a 153-run opening stand with Alviro Petersen (67) before Hashim Amla (80) … Originally posted from Pakistan toil as South African batsmen make hay on first day . Read Full Post
Suicide car bomb attacker targets foreign troops in Kabul
From the Blog Guppu: Suicide car bomb attacker targets foreign troops in Kabul - KABUL: A suicide car bomber targeted foreign forces in Kabul on Friday but the device detonated early, slightly injuring an Afghan soldier, ISAF and city police said. An International Security Assistance Force spokesman said the explosion happened near Camp Julien, which is located in the ruins of the former Afghan royal palace in the west … Originally posted from Suicide car bomb attacker targets foreign troops in Kabul . Read Full Post
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